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I am writing this article because I see so many jobs seekers making so many mistakes online. I want to help you become successful. Please share this post so that many can benefit from these advice. Before I decided to jump into screenwriting and even writing a ton of books, I was a marketing manager and business developer.
I recently realized that I have never been unemployed. I started working when I was 9 (over 35 years of work experience) at my parents’ pastry shop as a cashier and 9 years later got my first job in a gas station. I held many many many different job titles until today. I left jobs on my own and was never fired. I don’t believe that I am different than any of you. But, if I am not different, I must have done things differently. I wrote 35 books on self and business development that took also major research in “what makes someone successful in every way”.
I want to share with you 5 things that I did during my life to never be unemployed and to always find a job around the corner. Hopefully, these tips will help you. I also want to share 10 tips that will help you find a job faster.
5 things 1 did:
1- I always always aimed to be THE best.
“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand. ” Vince Lombardi
I would look at the person who was the best in the company (most promoted. paid more, received the most accolades) and then, I would aim at being better. The gold medal is often only .000000001 more than the silver medal. If you are the gold medalist, chances are, you won’t be the first to go. Not the second, the third… actually, you will be the last they will let go. You become indispensable.
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” Steve Jobs
2- I always educated myself in the field I worked in
“The joy of learning is as indispensable in study as breathing is in running. Where it is lacking there are no real students, but only poor caricatures of apprentices who, at the end of their apprenticeship, will not even have a trade.” Simone Weil
When I was hired as a marketing manager for a real estate and mortgage company, I spent all my free time reading and learning (eating, sleeping, talking, walking) about the new job. At some point I knew enough to write articles in the local papers about the industry. When you know more, you are paid more. Again, you are indispensable. And, by the way, that knowledge greatly helped later invest in real estate.
3- I always kept my options open.
“Wealth is not about having a lot of money; it’s about having a lot of options.” Chris Rock
If you depend on one company, one job, one line of work, one title, one pay check, your options considerable slim down. And your stress level increases radically. Therefore, you want to have more options. Diversify your knowledge.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Learn something new every day. Read about the market you are in, read about the opportunities in other companies. Always keep your eyes open.
4- When I worked, I worked
“If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first. “Mark Twain
I used my time wisely, did what was the most important first. Asked my bosses what were their priorities so I could focus on those. I didn’t spend time making friends socializing at the coffee machine. I did what I needed to do, the best I could, the fastest I could. Socializing gets you so far but when bosses look at their bottom line, that part of the work life never appears on there. And rarely (although it happens) do you keep “job” friends for life. So you spent or wasted all that time with people who would rather see you go than loose their jobs… Food for thought. I wasn’t liked by the co-workers and I was OK with that. I can’t stand small talk about reality TV or complaints about the boss. Remember the theory of the bucket of crabs…
“Don’t wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” Mark Twain
But, when I gave my resignation, presidents and vice presidents of huge corporations came down from the upper floor trying to keep me in. What counts more? And frankly and humbly, I rather make friends with the big cheese. Not because I am an ass kisser. I had major and sometimes loud arguments with the big cheeses but, I was talking and learning from people at the highest level of the food chain who could help me become better inside and out. When I was a kid, I was bullied for being a nerd. Gifted, I skipped 4 years and ended with people much taller, much larger and not so much nicer (or smarter). I became friends with teachers because at least I could talk with someone who would listen and answer. I guess that stuck with me.
5- When I looked, I wasn’t finicky and I hustled
“Big jobs usually go to the men who prove their ability to outgrow small ones.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
When I searched for a job, I knew my worth but I wasn’t going to not apply because I felt the job wasn’t good enough. I went in to get a job, any job. I knew I was going to climb the ladder anyway. When I moved to France in 1996, I absolutely wanted a job, fast. I saw an add for a position in the largest french magazine publisher in the world. I knew they probably received a thousand letters and I was not going to wait to find out if mine made it to the top. The company was seriously protected (against terrorist attacks). You need to show a badge to get in but I convinced the guards to let me pass.
I got hired as the assistant of an advertising director for a magazine that had just been launched. Why? The recruiter was stunned that I found my way in to her as their offices were moving and, of course…the guards. So I got a job immediately, on the spot, without an interview. She said she had never seen such determination. I really didn’t want to be someone’s assistant when I had just graduated with a Master’s degree but heck, I had a job. I didn’t know anything abut advertising but I was really good in sales. The director got sick and I was asked to sell the ads for the magazine.
“Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell ’em, ‘Certainly I can!’ Then get busy and find out how to do it.” –Theodore Roosevelt
I studied day and night to learn everything their was to know about advertising sales. I even took the role of being the magazine editor (not paid for it of course) and did the magazine layout. Within 8 months, I surpassed the year sales’ objectives. Bam! From there on, The VP’s door was always open to me. And if you know the French’s strong hierarchy system, you would know how big that was.
“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and will always solve the problems of the human race.” –Calvin Coolidge
So there, 5 things I did that made me never get fired or be unemployed. The last one, obviously, is that I have been my own boss for the last 10 years. And I won’t fire myself, I think I am too good at it. I guess I’ll keep myself and maybe give myself a raise 🙂
The 10 tips to find a job.
1- Never say you are desperately looking, begging for help. NEVER EVER. Instead say what you want to receive.
“Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally. If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must choose one of those three options, and you must choose now. Then accept the consequences.” Eckhart Tolle
There is nothing that works least in your favor than telling everyone how long you have been unemployed. People will not feel compassionate (and do you really want pity from a potential employer?). They will question your capacities. Saying “I am the best in my field but been unemployed for 6 months” doesn’t sound real.
Instead of desperate self pity that is absolutely not attractive, say loud and clear what you do want and why you are the best for it. I often see these pity seeking posts from job seekers who explain in depth why they can’t find work without even stating what they do and what they want. What a waste of public visibility.
2- People see what you do all the time. How you do one thing is how you do everything.
“While you are searching for a job, it is a good idea to be on your best behavior.” Judy Smith
Watch how you behave online. Do not criticize, blame, put down, share personal pictures or take political sides. Use social media for one purpose and one only, shine as bright as you can. People always know and people are looking. Even if you don’t see that a recruiter saw your post, they might have. And they might pass on you as a candidate because of your behavior, thoughts, outspokenness. If you piss on the last job you had, chances are the next job will pass the opportunity of being pissed on in the future.
3- Change your profile statement
If you have anything really valuable to contribute to the world it will come through the expression of your own personality, that single spark of divinity that sets you off and makes you different from every other living creature. Bruce Barton
Instead of writing “looking for a new career opportunity” which is so long and boring. Remember our attention spam is decreasing every day. And on a mobile device we won’t see anything else than “looking for a new…” very boring and a pass at wanting to be linked. Why? Because most of us will immediately think “Oh, boy, another person who will want to take something from me” thinking “without giving me anything of value in return”. Time is our most valued and precious possession and no one wants to waste it.
I hate it when seeing someone looking for “health benefits”. It feels like someone trying to take advantage without having anything to offer.
Make your profile fun and exiting. “Am looking to save more lives” for a lot of professions, that would work and at least get you a double take. “I want to make your business a success”. ” The best … is available for hire now”. Get it? Make it appealing and fun.
Speak of what you offer and not what you want to take away. Don’t sell but makes us want to buy.
I saw this camera man’s profile who stated “I shoot people for fun”. I will remember him for a long time.
4- Use this time wisely
Don’t be fooled by the calendar. There are only as many days in the year as you make use of. One man gets only a week’s value out of a year while another man gets a full year’s value out of a week. Charles Richards
So, you don’t have a job, we got that. You can cry on your poor life for ever or enjoy these days free from work, especially if you were complaining about the job before you lost it (remember the law of attraction). You might want to look into starting your own company. You might want to take some time off and see if what you were doing really made you happy or if it gives you a great opportunity to walk in a different direction.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Steve Jobs
Enjoy time with your kids and friends. I remember one of my very good friends was looking for a job and I told her exactly that. She understood that it might be the time to rest and prepare for being super busy in the right job. She worked on herself to become a better person. And before she knew it, Bam! She got a job offer that responded to her wildest dreams.
According to the law of attraction, you attract what you focus on the most. If you don’t believe it, fine, it works anyway just like the law of gravity does. If you focus on lack, you will attract more lack. If you focus on all the positive, you will attract more of the positive.
Also, while studying how the brain works, I realized that the more you think a thought, the more you send the command to your brain to find you more of the same. Like if at a control panel, we were signaling what the radar should search for. The brain has a radar and when you think the same thought over and over, this radar will search for similarities. If you think “I don’t have a job, am dying out here, I can’t find work, the money is getting low” guess what the radar will seek for. And if you write it and complain about it, it gets worse.
“Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.” –Brian Tracy
5- Be grateful (yeah it’s important)
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Oprah Winfrey
Which leads me here. If you are not spiritual, realize that gratitude provokes your brain to create endorphin which helps decrease stress, anxiety and depression which climbs when you are jobless.
Under stress, your brain blocks for many reasons too long to explain here. With endorphin, your brain starts working again. You will develop more creative solutions. That will help you be open to more opportunities, see jobs more clearly and find them more easily. And you will be much better in job interviews.
“It’s important that what thoughts you are feeding into your mind because your thoughts create your belief and experiences. You have positive thoughts and you have negative ones too. Nurture your mind with positive thoughts: kindness, empathy, compassion, peace, love, joy, humility, generosity, etc. The more you feed your mind with positive thoughts, the more you can attract great things into your life.” Roy T. Bennett
Take a few moments every day to write down what you are really grateful for. It might be that you are healthy or have a spouse, or are alive. Feel the joy of the gratitude. Fill your lungs with air and as they expand relax. Don’t focus solely on the missing piece of cake but on the whole cake.
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.” Buddha
“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest”. Benjamin Franklin
Yes, take this time to become the best of your field. Or learn a new skill. Or improve yourself, become a better you. Educate yourself. It will open your mind to more and better and therefore you will get better offers…
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“Yes, I’ve made a great deal of dough from my fiction, but I never set a single word down on paper with the thought of being paid for it … I have written because it fulfilled me. Maybe it paid off the mortgage on the house and got the kids through college, but those things were on the side—I did it for the buzz. I did it for the pure joy of the thing. And if you can do it for the joy, you can do it forever.” Stephen King
7- Increase the number of connections
“It doesn’t matter if you’re the smartest person in the room: If you’re not someone who people want to be around, you won’t get far.” Melissa Rosenberg
When (and please only when) you have changed the title in your profile, connect to people. Grow your network. Not as a beggar but genuinely talk to people about what you love and connect to find out what they love.
The more people you know, the more someone you know might know of someone needing what you have to offer.
“You get what you want by helping people getting what they want.” Zig zigglar
8- Work somewhere for free
“For it is in giving that we receive.” Francis of Assisi
Why not? You have nothing better to do. Give your time to a charity. Contribute generously with your time. Yes, the more you give, the more you get. It will help improve your self worth and you will stop thinking about your problems while you are there. And you don’t know who you might meet at one of those charities. Remember, everybody ends up finding out and everybody watches.
9- Get involved in association
“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” Barack Obama
Find local associations that work in your field and go to their meetings. You might find potential employs. Dress for the part, act the part and look for the part. In any case, you will be “doing” instead of feeling a victim of your circumstances.
10- Get help
“A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.” — Oprah Winfrey
Seek a mentor. Get a coach. Find a supportive group (not to moan and cry on your pitiful self) to use as a mastermind or energy booster.
When you really need help, people will respond. Sincerity means dropping the image facade and showing a willingness to be vulnerable. Tell it the way it is, lumps and all. Don’t worry if your presentation isn’t perfect; ask from your heart. Keep it simple, and people will open up to you. Jack Canfield
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As I was taking my morning walk alongside the beach, I felt incredibly happy. Nothing particular had happened except for the habitual crashing of the waves, flocks of pelicans’ skimming on the ocean’s surface, children’s giggles and the sun’s warmth piercing through the puffy white clouds. As my toes disappeared in the sand, I asked myself about the true meaning of happiness.
I have coached tons of people in the last 10 years and studied the many laws that govern success. All of us want what happiness, right? But what is it really? And why is it so important? Please stay tuned even if you think you know the answers as it might not be what you think.
Evidently happiness is not linked to possessions or status or even the reaching of goals. Most of us know this, others still believe that by acquiring more, the soul will feel fulfilled. But, we all know that, as soon as we reach a goal, acquire something we wanted for so long, or get to a new level of achievements, we move on to the next. Most of us do not even spend a second in rejoicing in what was supposed to make us happy. That’s where the saying “the journey, not the destination”…
So what then? And how can one remain in that state all the time (and yes, it is possible)? but first, why? Why is happiness so important. I know it seems obvious. But is it? Here are some reasons why happiness if so important in your life.
Two premises need to be understood. Happiness is equivalent to the love of life. And, the mind, body and soul can process only one feeling or thought at the time. Therefore, when there is happiness, joy or love; there cannot be a simultaneous sadness, fear, anger, hate…
The love of life is antonym to fear or death. The love of life will bring you more positive experiences. More reasons for the mind, body and soul to stay in life rather than drift towards death. Life is expansive, it is knowledge, curiosity, enthusiasm. You will experience more of these feelings and experiences while loving life. While death is dis-ease (the lack of ease), leading to fear, stress, anxiety and sickness.
Happiness is antonym to sadness and stress. The happier you feel, the less stress you experience. Stress being a major cause of health disasters, the happier you feel, the healthier you will be. You will sleep, digest, and even think better. Happiness provokes endorphin hormones in the brain which helps you learn faster, find creative solutions, solve problems, leading to less stress. And there goes the merry-go-round.
When studying neuroscience, the universal laws of prosperity and even quantum physics (which lead me to the same conclusions), I found that happiness will attract more of the same. The more you focus on something, the more your brain will lead you to more of the same. The law of attraction premise goes in the same direction. Therefore, the happier you feel, the more chances you have of experiencing circumstances that will make you happy.
But then, you say, how can I be happy all the time? Especially when things don’t go as I want them to? How can I decide of my emotions?
You need to be aware that you are always in control of your emotions. The only thing is that you have decided, at some point, to place them on auto-pilot, and to constantly re-act to your outer circumstances. When you switch gears to manual control, you will realize that your outer circumstances will start to change, that the outer world will re-act to your emotions and not the other way around.
My favorite quote from Wayne Dyer is “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.”
If I ask you to think about the saddest day of your life, and if you do, your mood will change to sadness. If I then immediately ask you to think of the happiest day you have experienced in your life, your mood will change abruptly, even though nothing will have changed in the outside world. How come? Your mind via your thoughts controls your emotions.
How then can we “practice” happiness? I chose the word “practice” because that is what it truly is. You can practice stress, doubts, fears, anxiety or you can practice happiness, gratitude, appreciation, love… Because of the law of substitution, you cannot feel two emotions at the same time. What you give your experience to (your thoughts, energy…) that is what you practice. The more you practice, the better you become at resorting to that option first and the more comfortable you become in that state of being.
Comfort is always attracting us back to it. That is the place where we feel safe and secure. If your place of safety is stress and anxiety, you will create a life that leads you to feel more of the same. That is how the brain works. It follows orders (you can learn more about that in my system “Boost your Brain Power” here).
In the next article, I will give you 10 ways you can feel happier and practice happiness daily until you become a master of happiness and witness in awe how your world shifts to incredible positive circumstances.
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After watching numerous interviews with successful people in many different industries and reading tons of books on the subject trying to understand how one can become successful, I noticed a pattern or, at least 10 similarities (or rules) that came up every time.
One might begin by questioning the definition of the word “success”. I won’t go into that simply because, at the the root of it, lies the same wanting, the same craving: to become more than what and who we are. As Kundera, one of my favorite authors would say “Anyone whose goal is ‘something higher’ must expect someday to suffer vertigo. What is vertigo? Fear of falling? No, Vertigo is something other than fear of falling. It is the voice of the emptiness below us which tempts and lures us, it is the desire to fall, against which, terrified, we defend ourselves.”
1- You got to be in the present moment.
All of them agree that too much time and energy are wasted when worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. Your power lies in the “now”.
2- Love what you do
As all say it: If you don’t love it enough, you will quit and that’s why most people do. You will be challenged, there will be problems. Your passion can help you overcome all obstacles. As Wayne Dyer would say it “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”
Know that you will fall, you will have problems, it will be tough. But as J.K. Rowlings says “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
Hang in there. The hurricane shall pass. Nothing ever lasts. Stay with it, walk through the storm. Move forward everyday. No matter what, don’t quit. You cannot fail if you don’t stop. Like Winston Churchill said “If you are going through Hell, keep on going.” And also, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
And then you will say it just like Barry Manilow in his song “I made it through the rain.” Because nothing ever lasts, enjoy the success while it last and prepare for the next hurricane.
4- Don’t do it for the money
The richest people in the world never did it for the money. That’s where most people get it wrong. They get into a field for the money and quit because the love is not there. Love what you do, the money will come. As Matthew McConaughey in the movie “Gold”: “We never did it for the money, we did it for the gold.” There is a big difference.
All successful people quiet their minds, void the noise. In the silence, you will find the answers. Mostly, you will find peace. As Warren Buffet says “I insist on a lot of time being spent, almost every day, to just sit and think. That is very uncommon in American business. I read and think. So I do more reading and thinking, and make less impulse decisions than most people in business. I do it because I like this kind of life.”
6- Be the best
You don’t need to be perfect. As Dali would say “Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.” You just need to be better. The better you are, the more noticeable you will become. Work on your craft day in and day out. As Will Smith says “When others sleep, I work. When others eat, I work.” If you are the best, you will not feel the need to prove yourself. You will be honest and have integrity because you will know, you are better. And those two qualities are worth gold. As Einstein would say “Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”
Don’t underestimate others by creating a low quality product. You will not cheat others, you’ll end up cheating yourself.
7- Believe in yourself
No one will ever believe in you more than you. At the beginning of anything, your belief and confidence will be the only allies you will have. But the more you believe and have confidence, the more the others will listen and, eventually follow. As Marianne Williamson would say “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
8- Dream big
You are the one who can set your limits. You have the choice, the power and responsibility to be limitless. As Les Brown would say “Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.” or Leo Burnett “When you reach for the stars you may not quite get one, but you won’t come up with a handful of mud either.”
If you start with low expectations, you never get big results.(That’s my quote). And then, imagine yourself there, act as if you were already there. Before you know it, you will be.
9- Surround yourself with the best
Build a great team or a mastermind group of piers. Remember that successful people talk about goals and ideas, sharing them and getting feed back on how to improve. As Jim Rohn would say “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” Chose carefully. If you cannot find 5 friends that have the statues, income, relationship, you want; chose among the deceased: read books.
10- Stay hungry
Never take anything for granted. Stay open, stay curious, stay enthusiastic. Never settle for something less than what you dreamed of. As Warren Buffet “read, read, read” as he reads 5-6 hours per day. Educate yourself. As Tom Hiddleston would say “Stay hungry, stay young, stay foolish, stay curious, and above all, stay humble because just when you think you got all the answers, is the moment when some bitter twist of fate in the universe will remind you that you very much don’t.”
11- A last one for the road
Don’t give a damn about what others think. Most of the time, they think about what you might be thinking about them. Their opinions will vary and they won’t say most of what they really think. If you succeed, they might be jealous and pull you down to their level of comfort so that your light does not cause them to live in a shadow. You are the person you will spend the most time with, treasure that, first.
Hope this inspires and motivates. Please share with others, to spread the light.
It’s that time of year, folks! You can do them, you can hide, you can imagine excuses why you don’t need ’em… It is that time, that jolly time when you get to create your future.
Most people see goals (or some sadly call them “resolutions”) as a list of stuff we may or may not get, a wish, an aim, a “pff, alright why not” kinda thing or a “it never works for me, why do it, ok, I’ll do it anyway” kinda attitude.
For me and a few others of my species, we consider goal setting as a marvelous time of year! A festive time when we get to take a bran new white canvas and draw on it exactly what our year is going to look like (apart for a bit of necessary surprises and fun challenges along the way). We, get to create a fabulous non existing reality, and then, see it unfold in front of our exited eyes (and the incredulous eyes of our neighbors).
If you wanna be one of us, and create your future, here are 10 unusual tips to help you, not create goals (how boring is that?) but create BIG goals that you WILL achieve (how thrilling is that?!) Let’s start before I already lose you to your doubts and fears.
1- You got a wand
Before you even start, you need to know, understand and believe that you have a magic wand and everything you decide will be made into reality. I know it’s like telling you that Santa exists. Well folks, drum roll, Santa exists! He is inside you!
Remember that you will need to write them on paper (just as if you wrote to Santa) and read them everyday (many times a day) or re-write them to keep you on track for the next 365 days.
2- Are you ready for the ride?
The bigger the goals, the more rapid the joy ride to get there. Time (or the length of) is defined by you and only you. You can have anything in a specific time. You need only to commit to the growth it will involve to get you there faster.
Achieving means transformation. It means learning, it means becoming someone different than the person you are. You might have growing pains by growing faster but, I can assure you, it is worth it. Anyway, why wait 10 years to get something you can have in one? You’d have 9 years to do other stuff.
For example, I read the post of someone who was so exited to have finally completed his first screenplay, 19 years (19 years!!!???) in the making. Imagine if it is a flop? I wrote 3 in 4 months and already have 5 awards. Which do you choose?
3- Make them clear and specific
You wanna car? what model, year, make, color, number of miles, interior, price. A house? what neighborhood (address is even better) size, rooms, interior decor…? A wife: qualities, faults, …? You get the picture. Make your picture as clear as possible. Describe in details. Make them so clear you can already feel touch and taste them (am not talking about the wife here).
Something very important: don’t make them all about stuff you don’t have yet. Make them also about stuff you have, being improved. You love your body, improve it still. You love your wife, how much more can you improve the relationship? Know that what ever isn’t growing dies, nothing ever stays the same. The relationship is dying. Probably malnourished!
You can be specific (it has to be measurable) about any goal. Love translates to time. You want more precious time with your kids: how many hours, doing what? You want to make your wife happier? what exactly are you going to do daily about it? You want more money? How much (savings, earnings, net worth…)?
4- Bigger is better
Multiply them by 10. You got the wand right? For those who are saying, “I don’t need 10 times more”. Fine! make them 10 times bigger anyway, achieve them and give me the difference. I’ll be ok with it. In other words, why limit yourself? You can be in better shape, have much better relationships, make more money, and all.
5- Plan backwards
Start at the end of next year and ask yourself the following question? In order for me to achieve this goal at the end of the year, what will I have needed to have accomplished by the end of November. Then: to get to the goals at the end of November, what do I need accomplished by October. And so on, until you get to January 1st and know what steps, actions.. you will need to make to get to the goals at the end of the month.
6- What are you gonna get rid of?
If you’re gonna have new stuff in your life, you’ll need to get rid of some old stuff. What I mean by that is. (If you laugh and say, “if I want a new wife, I gotta get rid of the…” funny and not so far from what I am saying).
Every year, month, week or day; there are 2 questions that should always be in the back of your mind:
a- Is what I am doing right this moment bringing me closer to my goals? If the answer is no, stop, switch, move on…
b- If I knew what I know now would I still be (working here, in this relationship, with this friends, in this house, in this business…)? If the answer is “no”, the next question is “what do I need to do to get out of it as fast as I can”?
Time is our most precious possession. Most valuable than gold, diamonds or money. Time is irreplaceable and never, ever to be wasted. You can do “nothing” if you feel like it, that is not wasting time. It is resting, relaxing, … But if you do “nothing” to change something that is costing you, that is a sad waste.
The worse thing you can do is be busy at something that is non important. 80% of time is wasted that way. Don’t just move dust around. Take one step, but one forward in the direction of what you are trying to accomplish.
You are also going to lose some things or people. When we grow fast and achieve a lot of stuff, we leave some people in the dust behind. You can act like Forest Gump and run back to get them. Some will react just like Captain Dan and hate you for it. It is a choice.
You might leave your neighborhood, your country, your kids, your friends, your job, … Be ready for losing as a part winning.
7. Who will you be?
Who is the successful (entrepreneur, lover, juggler, runner….) person you will become? What do you need to change inside you to become that person who reached that goal? List the qualities you lack and learn to develop them. If you want a relationship and you listed the qualities of your future beloved, learn to become that which you seek. Because who you seek, seeks it’s equivalent.
Also, you can drop some old thought patterns, some behaviors, negative habits, … And forgive, you will feel much lighter traveling forward.
8. Imagine it
Visualization is the most powerful tool we have. If you can’t imagine your goal, your will never achieve it, no matter what you do to get there.
Spend 15 minute daily in that goal, feeling it with every molecule. Bathe in the satisfaction of accomplishment. You’ll notice that the 15 minutes you use, will bring you ideas and will open up your eyes to a lot of opportunities.
Feel the joy, celebrate in advance. Share your dream (with people who get it and shut up people “dream killers”)
9. What can you do today?
There must be one small action you can immediately take: join a gym, a business association, a meetup for singles, … on small step for you, a large leap for… you know what I mean
Remember to plan! 1 hour spent planning saves 10 hours of doing, making, failing, returning to the beginning, redoing, hating yourself for not having thought of it sooner, losing sleep, stressing…
10. Relax and have fun.
Don’t worry so much. The one thing you need to understand is that, the person who has everything wants nothing and feels completely relieved, relaxed, has fun in the simple every day things. You need to become the person you will be once you have it all, before you have it all, to all it all.
And if you need an expert in helping you reach outrageous goals (or normal or small ones), am here. firstname.lastname@example.org
How many of you have started planning the year ahead? You are all aware that ”failing to plan is planning to fail” as Alan Lakein would say.
How many of you are tired of planning and not achieving their goals. You set objectives and then, come January 2nd, as 90% of other people, you forget them. Or worse, you have decided to no longer have any ”New Year resolutions”, goals, or dreams because you don’t want to be disappointing again, or you fear that your friend will mock you if you fail.
Well, first of all, who care about what others think, right? And if they haven’t tried anything and, therefore, never failed, doesn’t make them more successful, on the contrary.
I want you to set goals and achieve them! Therefore, here are 3 questions you might ask that would help you.
1- What are 10 things I would really really really want to achieve this year?
Here you can list 10 goals (big or very small) that you want to achieve. You need not share this information with anyone and I seriously recommend you don’t, for many reasons.
The second question is:
2- How would achieving all these goals make me feel, why do I want to achieve them?
Here, list at least 25 reasons why you want to reach those objectives. And describe in full length how you would feel: successful, relieved, happy, relaxed, stable, healthier… And, please, DWELL on the feelings every single day. Read that list of motivations and bathe yourself in the positive feelings of having achieved your goals everyday for at least 15 minutes.
Your brain feeds off the positive energy and will become much more creative in finding ways for you to reach those goals.
3- What can I do (3 actions) every day to reach that goal?
List 3 things, big or small you can do to get there. These things might change over the course of the year. More actions might be added with time. The most important is that you add them in your planner and do them.
You can divide large tasks into small ”chewable” tasks so you can easily add it to your schedule.
Expect the positive you seek because the positive seeks you. Every time you expect a negative outcome, you shut the door to the positive that was just about to walk in…
Hope this helps. If you need a boost and a success coach with a proven record to make sure you get ”there” fast, let me know: email@example.com
I remember my uncle today. He was an extraordinary person. During the summer, I would visit and spend the time with him and my family at the Ocean.
He was a remarkable man with a heart of gold. His generosity had no limits and so did his wealth. Continue reading “Christmas and the spirit of generosity”
As for living in a more fulfilling and happy relationship, here is a simple “to do” list. You don’t need to do it all, but those are all ingredients that will better your relationship: Continue reading “Valentine’s day special: Creating a beautiful relationship”
Negativity does not only exist in the thoughts although that is the most subtle form of negativity. It also resides in words and actions. We learned earlier how important words are in controlling your destiny. Therefore, there are some major words we should learn to part from such as the ones we used for gossiping, complaining, blaming, swearing, insulting and using sarcasm. Words contain some form of magic. You send a message to the Universe when you talk, a signal, a wave. When you send out a negative wave, you create a negative magic. I believe that speaking negatively is like spitting in the air, not taking into account the law of gravity or sending out a boomerang and not thinking it will make a round circle and come directly back at you. Continue reading “Start the year on the right foot: Be Positive about your life!”
Happy New Year everyone!
With every new year, most people make New Year Resolutions which are often forgotten by mid February.
In my case, because I work in the field of self development, I have acquired skills to transform resolutions into successes. Continue reading “Accountability and New Year Resolutions”
even bigger so that the hero’s of this world are effectively the children and NOT the assassins of the children. I have had ENOUGH of the emphasis put on media to shine the light on the evil, negative and make heros out of killers. ENOUGH!!! I definitely need help to build wechangeworlds and if any of you has ideas on where one can find where to create more funds to develop the website, I would love to hear. I will need to hire people full time so that we have more and fresh news and we take the light and shine on the children…before more victims are made! This is my heart calling. If the Universe hears me, please answer my prayer! God and Angels come to me now!